For folks with unhappy relationships with food, learning to face a fear of food and the eating experience is a biggie!
Maybe you are……
- Scared of overeating? OR
- Fearful of eating a “forbidden” or “no-no” food?
One way to move just that little inch closer to releasing the fear of food is to – stay CALM.
Now I know you are going to ask – How do you start the meal calmly when your brain is firing off mean lady (or mean man) thoughts?
You know the ones….”I’m not allowed to eat that”, “That’s not healthy”, “Once I start I won’t be able to stop”……
To face your fear of food…breathe.
Breathe you say? (I am already %$?#ing breathing!). Well you are, but are you actually aware of each breath?
To face the fear, you can take that meal moment by moment >>>>> as you walk to the table, as you sit, as you say hi to your fellow eating companions, as you pick up the knife and fork or pick up that food, as you look at it, smell it, bite it, chew it and swallow it. That’s almost 10 moments right there and that’s 10 little moments to take a slow breath (and really truly ACTUALLY NOTICE the breath).
If you are honing in on your breath you are less likely to notice those irritating, fearful (and damaging) thoughts.
It can sometimes be helpful to say a word or sound before you approach each meal. Kinda like a mini mantra.
Here’s a couple to try:
“I can breathe and stay calm when I eat”
“I have the right to eat my meal with ease”
If you practice this each time, slowly and surely it becomes habit:
- You are more likely to manage your emotions, your fears and your anxieties.
- You are more likely to eat slowly, savouring each bite.
- You are more likely to stop when you are comfortably full.
- Most of all you are more likely to enjoy your meal. That’s what it’s all about right?